Welcome to the December Carnival of Natural Parenting: Let’s Talk Traditions
This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama.
Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.
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Homeschooling for our family continued through the winter holiday season except for Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Day. We truly had a homeschool Christmas season … a season filled with lots of fun and meaningful family traditions.
Our winter break:
We always set our school schedule around what our family chose for the year, and we never took a normal Christmas vacation. When Will and Christina were young, we preferred to take a longer summer vacation – from the beginning of May to the end of August. So we took very few vacations during the school year.
Later on, we had a different schedule. One year, we went to Disney World in the beginning of December to avoid the crowds while still enjoying the Christmas festivities. For a few years, my children had U.S. Junior National Figure Skating Championships in early December. Later on, my children had U.S. National Figure Skating Championships in January. Those sorts of events were our winter break.
Our Christmas traditions, often woven into our homeschool day:
We had an Advent wreath and devotions.
I was the Christian education director for our church when Will and Christina were young and started an atrium in our church for the Montessori-based Catechesis of the Good Shepherd program. At home, we reinforced what we did in the atrium and focused on the mystery of Christmas with an Advent wreath and devotions that went along with the church year and atrium presentations.
We used an Advent calendar.
We typically went shopping together for an Advent calendar. We enjoyed picking out our calendar together and opening the doors each day. When we had an event like Junior Nationals, though, we had to miss a few days and open a number of Advent calendar doors when we returned home. We always allowed flexibility for unusual events in our lives.
We read a Christmas book each day from December 1-Christmas.
Actually, we often started reading Christmas books on Thanksgiving, but we definitely started daily reading of Christmas books on December 1. Of course, during Junior Nationals, we might miss a few days again and read more when we returned home. I think Christmas was probably more special and less stressful because we did allow ourselves to get off schedule when necessary. When Will and Christina were older, we often read a chapter or short story from a Christmas book.
We watched a lot of Christmas movies.
We didn’t watch regular television – just videos and figure skating events, so it was a special time at Christmas to watch many Christmas movie videos in the evenings from Thanksgiving through Christmas. We also went to see Christmas movies at the local theater.
One year, we watched a Christmas movie each day during Junior Nationals. On Christmas Day, we always watched a Christmas movie in the afternoon. It wasn’t always the same Christmas movie but was always agreed upon by the whole family.
We made Christmas crafts, baked, drove around looking at Christmas lights, visited Santa (often at the mall), and participated in community events and service projects.
We did all sorts of activities, often varying them somewhat from year to year. We enjoyed seeing which community activities were available. Some years we participated in Christmas activities with our homeschool co-op. Other years, we went caroling or participated in a food drive. One year, we visited Santa and Mrs. Claus at the zoo. Another year, we went to an outdoor tuba concert. Even though our activities weren’t always the same, they were the same in that we enjoyed the holiday spirit.
On Christmas Eve, we had vegetarian chili, celebrated the Nativity, and opened our presents.
I made vegetarian chili in the crock pot so I was free in the early evening to wrap presents (yes, I really did wrap presents on Christmas Eve!). We started our celebration with our dinner by candlelight. We often had a candlelight church service.
We never taught our children that Santa Claus was real, only that Santa Claus was a fun story. Will and Christina enjoyed Christmas and Santa Claus stories and movies as much as everyone else – and they enjoyed opening presents on Christmas Eve.
Before opening presents, we always read the Christmas story. When Will and Christina were young, we read a picture book of the first Christmas that we had gotten when Will was a toddler. We all grew so attached to that book that we always read it on Christmas Eve. We sometimes sang Christmas carols as well. Then we opened the presents. I helped Will and Christina make ornaments when they were little for Terry and me. The ornaments were their presents to us. And each of those ornaments is still a special part of our Christmas tree.
Will and Christina opened Christmas stockings on Christmas morning, and we spent time as a family on Christmas Day.
Like many other parents, we gave Will and Christina a gift of new pajamas on Christmas Eve. Will and Christina wore their new pajamas when they opened their Christmas stockings (which they knew were from Terry and me). The stockings were mainly filled with small, fun items.
We enjoyed Christmas as a time just to spend together eating (some years a feast similar to Thanksgiving, some years a simple meal), watching our Christmas movie, playing games, and giving Will and Christina time to play with their new toys. Will and Christina always had books as part of their presents, so there was time for reading as well.
Even though our traditions weren’t always identical from year to year, they were focused on what was best for our family each year. And that’s what mattered.
UPDATES: For LOTS and LOTS of ideas for celebrating Advent and Christmas, see:
December Family Activities (posts from 2010 and earlier – with resources and links that still work)
50+ December Family Activities
40+ Christmas Countdown Activities
Should You Use Unit Studies? (contains links to all my Christmas posts)
Linked with Christmas Traditions Link Up at JDaniel4’s Mom
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- Traditions? What traditions? — Olivia at Write About
Birth needs your advice: how can she make the most of the holiday season in a new
country with only her immediate family? (@writeaboutbirth) - TRADITION!!!!!! — Ella at My Intentional
Journey reminds us all to be thankful for family traditions; there are those who have
none. - tradition! — Stefanie at Very, Very Fine came
to realize that families can make incredible memories, even if they’re not wealthy (or
organized). - Taking a child’s perspective on traditions — Lauren at
Hobo Mama wants to keep in mind how important even the mundane traditions will be
to her little ones. (@Hobo_Mama) - Sunday Dinners and Lullabies — Kat at Loving {Almost}
Every Moment finds traditions in the small things throughout the year. - Simple Family Advent Traditions — Michelle at The
Parent Vortex crafted a set of advent bags with daily surprises to eat and to do. (@TheParentVortex) - Parenting: Family
Meetings – A Timeless Tradition — Amy Phoenix at Innate
Wholeness discusses a year-round tradition in her household: Family Meetings. (@InnateWholeness) - Our Mindful Holidays — They may not be “traditional” traditions,
but they fit the family of Kellie at Our Mindful Life. - Our Holiday Traditions, New and Old — Even with three young
children, Kristin at Intrepid Murmurings is finding ways to be intentional and
meaningful about holiday traditions. (@sunfrog) - Our Cupcake Custom — Amy at Anktangle
knows celebrations need minimal excuse and lots of cupcakes! (@anktangle) - On the bunny slope of tradition-making — Jessica Claire
at Crunchy-Chewy Mama is finding her groove as a holistic-minded mama with a joyful
holiday spirit. (@crunchychewy) - No, Virginia, There Is Not a Santa Claus — Just because her
family is not going to do Santa, does not mean that Sheila at A Gift Universe
can’t instill some mystery and magic into Christmas. (@agiftuniverse) - New Traditions — Becky at Future Legacy
shares a few traditions she is starting for her family, including popovers, a birthday banner, and
service. - My Holiday Family Traditions — The
Artsymama continues a long tradition of adopting family members and sharing two
favorite games that work well for a crowd. - Mindfully Creating Family Traditions — Alison at
BluebirdMama has ideas for celebrating birthdays, Valentine’s Day, and Christmas —
though her family’s still figuring some of it out. (@bluebirdmama) - Memorable Traditions — Lori Ann at MamaWit
follows four mindful steps when instituting any tradition. - Let’s Talk Traditions — Lily, aka Witch Mom
shares her family’s traditions that are centered on the wheel of the year. (@lilyshahar) - Homeschool Christmas — Deb Chitwood at Living
Montessori Now did not always celebrate the Christmas season in the same way with
her family, but they always celebrated together. (@DebChitwood)
- Holidays, food and family — For Kristen at Adventures in
Mommyhood, the holidays are about family and food. (@crunchymamato2) - Giving Christmas to the Critter — Rachael at The
Variegated Life has found a way to tie her Zen practices to the Christmas story of the
baby in the manger. (@RachaelNevins) - Family
Traditions + To Santa Or Not To Santa — Stop by Natural Parents
Network to discover some of the traditions from other natural parents. NPN is also
featuring snippets of posts from NP bloggers on the topic of whether to encourage children to
believe in Santa Claus. (@NatParNet) - Family Tradition Origins — Momma Jorje
discusses her family’s traditions, and her desire not to make anyone feel obligated to conform to
them. - Everyday Traditions — For Mandy at Living Peacefully
with Children it’s the small, daily traditions that make life special. - Establishing Traditions and Older Child Adoption —
MrsH at Fleeting Moments is trying to find ways to start traditions with a family
that was made very quickly through birth and adoption. - Emerging Family Traditions — Melodie at Breastfeeding
Moms Unite! shares some of her favorite birthday and Christmas traditions. (@bfmom) - Does Rebellion Count? — Seonaid at the Practical
Dilettante has instituted a day of rest and PJs at her house on Christmas. (@seonaid_lee) - December Carnival of Natural Parenting: Family Traditions —
Sybil at Musings of a Milk Maker tries to give her girls a mix of traditions to
foster togetherness — but worries that not being near extended family is a disconnect. - Craft-tea Christmas Celebrations — Lucy at Dreaming
Aloud created a delicious Christmas tradition that she named “Craft-tea.” - A Christmas Tradition — Luschka at Diary of a First
Child knows that even though she won’t be able to have her usual holiday traditions this
year, the important thing is that she has her family. (@lvano) - Celebrations without
the Holiday — Asha at Meta Mom shares several ways to
celebrate the winter holidays without focusing on religious traditions. (@metamomma) - Celebrating the Journey We Have Traveled Together —
Acacia at Be Present enjoys the chance to draw closer to her family during
the Christmas holiday. - Celebrating Motherhood — Do you celebrate the day you became
a mother? Dionna at Code Name: Mama offers some ideas for traditions to
mark your passage into motherhood. (@CodeNameMama) - Celebrate! Winter Traditions Brought Home. — At
True Confessions of a Real Mommy, TrueRealMommy and her family are
celebrating many different religions and traditions this month. Stop by to see their schedule of
events. (@TrueRealMommy) - “Always Ready”, Holiday Style — Amy at Toddler In
Tow discovered that it’s not the traditions themselves, but the emotional experience
behind them that makes them special.
Lori Ann says
Fun! Thanks for sharing your family traditions. I found you via the carnival. Do you remember the name of the children’s storybook for the Christmas story? I love to search for older, used books especially when they’ve been recommended by people who loved them 🙂
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks for your comment, Lori Ann! The book we always used was The First Christmas by Marcia Williams. Ours has a 1987 copyright (it was originally published in 1987 in Great Britain), but I found copies easily available online with 1988 and 1989 copyrights. We always liked that the book showed that Bethlehem was 70 miles from Nazareth. It helped put Mary and Joseph’s journey in perspective.
Lauren says
Glad to hear what the book was! I’m actually on the hunt for a good Christmas book like that. 🙂
Deb Chitwood says
It’s funny that we kept reading the same book (we have a treasured Epiphany book, too)! We even included our kids’ spouses in our Christmas Eve reading. Fortunately, our kids and kids-in-law are happy to be young again on Christmas Eve!
Vicki Tillman says
Thanks for the post. The advent wreath has stayed an important part of our homeschool Christmas tradition even though my youngest is now 14. Christmas movies, too, just like your family. (What Americana!)
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks, Vicki! Those are definitely two of my favorite traditions!
Kat says
I love reading about your experiences in homeschooling 🙂 Growing up we did a lot of the same things (reading Christmas books and watching movies) I look forward to doing some of those things with my kiddos. Thanks for sharing!
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks, Kat! Reading Christmas books and watching Christmas movies are two traditions I think can really help us as parents enjoy Christmas along with our kids. There are very few activities I find more relaxing than sitting together as a family in the living room lighted by Christmas tree lights as we watch a Christmas movie!
Kristen says
I love the idea of reading a Christmas story every day.
We tell our children the same thing about Santa, that it’s a fun story based on a man, St. Nicholas, who really did live long ago.
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks, Kristen! I know a lot of people find it hard to imagine growing up without believing in Santa at some point. But I was happy growing up with gift opening on Christmas Eve and being told that Santa was just a fun story. My husband said he was very upset as a child when he found out Santa wasn’t real. So it was natural for us to tell our children that Santa was just a fun story except for the real St. Nicholas. But we all are moved by and cheer for Santa Claus in Christmas movies and stories!
SomeGirl says
Sounds like you guys had wonderful Christmas celebrations! I can always feel the warmth in your family through your posts!
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks for your sweet message, Michelle! We definitely loved – and still love – our Christmas traditions!
Dionna says
Your memories sound lovely! I’d love to hear how your children incorporate some of those traditions into their own lives now that they are grown. Thank you for sharing with us!
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks, Dionna! Actually, we still continue most of our Christmas Eve and Christmas Day traditions – with the addition of our daughter-in-law and son-in-law!
Last year, it worked best for Will and Chea to visit Chea’s parents in North Carolina and Christina and Tom to visit Tom’s parents in England for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Then we all were together in Colorado the next week. We just pretended December 28 was Christmas Eve and December 29 was Christmas Day!
We had our traditional meals, read our Christmas book, opened gifts on “Christmas Eve,” and had Christmas stockings, games, and movie on “Christmas Day”! It was wonderful! This year, we’ll all be together on the real Christmas Eve and Christmas Day!!
Oh, and we’ve added a new tradition! When our kids can’t be home right at Christmas, Terry and I go to Sunday brunch at the beautiful, historic Broadmoor Hotel. We enjoy the fantastic brunch, amazing decorations at the hotel, huge gingerbread house display, and a walk by the lake behind the hotel. And we’ve added Sunday brunch at the Broadmoor to when our kids are home for the holidays!
Sybil says
I have definitely been reading a lot about Christmas jammies in the CarNatPar posts!
So glad to have found your blog through the carnival.
It is great to read about your traditions that you incorporate in to your homeschooling. We will be HSing starting next year and I’m excited to really take the time to explore holidays more deeply with my girls.
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks, Sybil! I really enjoyed reading books about each holiday – especially when my children were little – to help them understand the history of the holiday and traditions around the world.
Melodie says
Reading your post has made me realize that there are a lot of other things we do that I don’t even think of as being a tradition. Namely the books and movies. They are always so fun. We keep our Christmas books put away until Dec 1st and then it is a big treat to read our favorite stories again.
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks for your comment, Melodie! It’s almost easiest to see family traditions in retrospect sometimes. A lot of things that became traditions for us didn’t start out as intentional traditions – we just kept doing them because they were so much fun and meant a lot to our family.
Momma Jorje says
You have some very interesting versions of seemingly “traditional” traditions! My husband would absolutely love the movie tradition! We’ve been watching lots of Scrooged! on television lately!
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks for your comment! Our Christmas movie tradition was definitely a favorite – and it’s one that we love to do as much as possible even though our kids now have spouses!
Michelle says
These are some of my favorite posts that you write. I love seeing how you folded in the Holidays with your Homeschooling. As always there are tons of great ideas that I can’t wait to try. Have a wonderful Christmas season!
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks so much for your kind words, Michelle! It means so much to me to know my posts are helpful for you! I hope you have a wonderful Christmas season, too!
Kathleen says
Wow. You just answered two of my life’s most persistent questions at once! #1, can you use Montessori principles/materials in homeschooling, and #2, can you use them in Christian education?
I am a trained Montessori teacher, a homeschool enthusiast, and a relatively new Christian, and I am so excited about seeing all of my favorite things come together like this! I found you through Lori Ann’s blog mamawit.com, and I will definitely be back to hear how things are going.
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks, Kathleen! I have posts appropriate for parenting in general, but my favorite three topics are probably Montessori education, homeschooling, and Montessori-based religious education! I absolutely love all three!
Lauren says
I love your relaxed perspective on Christmas celebrations. It sounds like you’ve had a lot of meaningful traditions without being rigid about them, and I can sense the joy and fun radiating through your memories. Thanks for the great ideas and for sharing your story!
Deb Chitwood says
Thanks so much, Lauren! We really do have a great time keeping the best of our traditions and adding new ones that we enjoy. And it’s amazing how quickly the new ones become a treasured part of our family traditions!
BJ says
Traditions are what make Christmas special in my opinion and I really loved that you took the time to share yours with us. There is something innocent and magical about watching those Christmas movies – perhaps it’s the nice change of pace from the usual type of movies that are out the rest of the year.
Loved looking at the family photos too!
Deb says
Thanks, BJ! I always love re-visiting posts with family photos and memories! 🙂